Women Who Must Recover Years Lost in the Watchtower

Have You Remarried?

Many women who have left the Watchtower are now remarried to non-JW men. In most cases, they seem to be happy with their mates, but often find their mates cannot relate to their past experiences in the Watchtower, it seems so unreal to their husbands that anyone could get involved in such a strange cult. If you find yourself in this situation, it would be helpful for your husband to read Steve Hassan's Combatting Cult Mind Control or my own book, Understanding Mind Control Among Jehovah's Witnesses. The slow and deliberate process of cult indoctrination is very clever, and can overcome the most intelligent of persons under the right circumstances. Your husband will respect you much more if he understands the indoctrination process. Few things in life are more rewarding than your mate's respect for you and your intelligence. Get them to commit to reading these books!

Another good reason for your husband to read these books is if they will not tolerate your getting involved in another church, for fear of your getting sucked into another cult. What they don't realize is that if an ex-member of a cult is EDUCATED as to the cult dynamic and how it works, they are the LEAST LIKELY of anyone to get involved in a cult again. Such husbands need to appreciate that their wives may still have a heart for spiritual things, and that there are many good Christian churches out there that are not cultic or legalistic. You should not suffer being starved spiritually just because your husband does not trust you--the trust will come by mutual education regarding the cult phenomena. A local Christian ministry that deals with cults may be of help (order a copy of our Directory of Cult Research Organizations) or a local anti-cult ministry. Fellowship with other ex-members is very helpful in overcoming lingering fears and any shyness at meeting new friends!